Sunday, October 12, 2008

When Your Partner Cheats On You

"I'm sorry love, I wasn't thinking. I don't know why I did it. It just happened and it won't happen again. I'm sorry. Please forgive me."
This is a common plea for forgiveness. The person knows what they did was wrong and yet they have the audacity to beg for forgiveness.It's an unwritten law that you don't cheat on your partner. It's not something someone has to be told is wrong. We all know it is wrong yet people cheat anyway and then use ignorance as their excuse.
People who cheat are simply selfish people. They are only concerned about themselves and no-one else.
What these people don't know is that it isn't you who doesn't love them, but rather they don't love themselves. It's very similar to the person who is suspicious in that a person can only be suspicious of what they have done or what they can do.
In this situation, these people cheat to force you into saying, "yes, I love you and I forgive you".
But that isn't love. That's control. In this situation the partner will continue to cheat because they know you don't have the self esteem to leave them. They know that you are afraid to be alone.
Learn to love yourself... and free yourself! Don't be afraid. Your partner doesn't own you.
In other situations, a person who is selfish will cheat just to be cruel and mean. They don't give a damn about anything or anyone, including themselves. They pretend to be this and they pretend to be that, but the bottom line is that they are fake. Completely and totally fake.
Love isn't about cheating on your partner.Love can't exist when there isn't trust and commitment.
If all you want is a relationship that is 25% complete, then stay with a partner who cheats.
But if you are serious about love, then do yourself a favour and realize you deserve 100% all the time.
No excuse can justify cheating.
A person doesn't even need to be allowed 1 mistake in terms of cheating because we all know it is wrong.
We know it's wrong and nothing more needs to be said.
A loving partner will never cheat. Love is not about hurting someone else.
If your partner cheats on you, then there really isn't love.

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