Mars & Venus

As per the title...obviously it's gotto do with men & women...
well, 1st of all...other than there are differences when it comes to the physical parts, whereby certain pieces are added & certain pieces are missing....
What's the biggest difference between Men & Women?
The personalities? The distinctive 6 sense & intuition? The strength & weeknesses? or the hobbies & interest?
Well, i think it's the way the brains are working...which voice down to the thoughts & emotions...
hmm..talking bout brain, about thoughts....
is it because most of the time, women thinks more with their heart only when it comes to analytical issues they use their brains...but mostly overcome with emotions?
or is it because guys have got two brains? as what they say, two heads are better than one? but most of the time or all the time, one brain is not thinking at all & is affecting the other one which is thinking...or should i say leading the thinking one along...which in most cases, ended up making the wrong decision?
As for ladies, normally they would be affected by emotions, which also make them end up controlled by them and make hasty decisions or do irrational things at the worst moment...which is why, they at the end of the day, tends to regret on their decision making....
Which is why men always say that women cant think rationally or make good decisions....
But....we all are humans afterall...how could we not have emotions?
Making decisions without feelings, or without Feeling the decisions you need to make, would make the outcome at times, beyond returnable state, or harsh at times....
Thus, there is always two sides of the coins....the need is just to find a balancing point...yup...the word is JUST TO...and IF we can find it...
the only thing we can do is probably to try...finding the balancing point which is very difficult....or to try....understanding each other's indifferences...
As some people say, women came from the men, they are actually a part from the men's ribs...which means that we do have to complement each other to a certain extent...
it's like yin & yang, father & mother, you need to have both in order to have a balance....
at the end of the day...it's not so much of men or women but the personality traits which clashes...we just have to be able to understand this & to accept it & find a correct way to go round the traits to adapt or blend in to each other...
if we could accept why is it that women always pick on petty things which seems to matter a whole big deal to them, while men always brush these aside and only focus on the big issues...is because men tend to be more of a superhero character & women are more on a damsel on distressed...though we may be pretty tough at times & can take care of ourselves completely well without men...we still have our times, when we are soft & need someone to lean on...afterall...we could always blame in on the PMS or hormones...
If we could just dont ask why...& accept the fact & try to understand that's just how each of us are, & take the fact that though we do not think it's important, but it is to them, why not just accept rather than pry on the WHY? & then think they are weird....
it's all a matter of preference i guess, just like why guys like cars, but ladies like beauty products...the differences...
there was once a saying that men & women used to be one until they separated, & it is up to you to find the exact perfect piece to fit in the puzzle, as when parted, each pair is spilted differently...but it is a matter of IF & WHEN we can find them...
Thus when one knows that it is tough or almost impossible, cos not all people have the luck of finding their other real perfect half...
so, why not...let go or our indifferences & start all over again...as individuals who care & understands.....

LIKE OR LOVE????

LIKE OR LOVE????

In front of the person you like, your heart beats faster
*But in front of the person you love, you get happy.

*In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring.
*But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.

*If you look into the eyes of the one you like, you blush.
*But if you look into the eyes of the one you love, you smile.

*In front of the person you like, you can't say everything on your mind.
*But in front of the person you love, you can.

*In front of the person you like, you tend to get shy.
*But in front of the person you love, you can show your own self.

*You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you like.
*But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you love.

*But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.
*When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.

*The feeling of like starts from the ear.
*But the feeling of love starts from the eye.

*So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears.

*But if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever ...

Don't Think DIRTY.....

Dont think Dirty...

1. What is a four-letter word that ends in ‘k’ and means the same as intercourse?

2. What is it that a cow has four of and a woman has only two of?

3. What can you find in a man's pants that is about six inches long, has a head on it, and that women love so much that they often blow it?

4. What word starts with "f " and ends with "u-c-k"?

5. Name five words that are each four letters long, end in " u-n-t " one of which is a word for a woman?

6. What does a dog do that you can step into?

7. What four letter word begins with "f " and ends with k", and if you can't get one you can use your hands?

8. What is hard, six inches long, has two nuts, and can make a girl fat?

9. What four-letter word ends in "i-t " and is found on the bottom of birdcages?

10. What is it that all men have one of; it's longer on some men than on others; the pope doesn't use his; and a man gives it to his wife after they're married?


ANSWERS:
1. (talk)
2. (legs)
3. (a twenty dollar bill)
4. (firetruck)
5. (bunt, hunt, runt, punt, aunt)
6. (pants)
7. (fork)
8. (Almond Joy candy bar)
9. (grit)
10. (last name)

♥♥loving you♥♥

loving you.

no. this time im not gona talk about the typical love story. the usual "im so inlove with this guy," "i wana love you forever" sort of thing.

this time, im talking about loving you. yes, you. your self.

it’s been quite a couple of months lately. drowning myself with and in work (which i love to do :)) , and being surrounded by the usual twisted life stories, misshapenned loves, mine and otherwise.

i realized one thing though.

here, let me throw a question.

how can you say that you love yourself? what is proof that you take time and effort to take care of yourself? to shower yourself with love, the same way you do to "him," or "that," or "them?"

Many may answer, "oh, i love myself so much because I make sure that I get what I want."

Clearly, this response is sheer honesty, and bare-souled selfishness. Havent we heard of the "art of selfishness?" or the need for "me time" from the ubiquitous Oprah?

"What I want" could apply to the simplest of things like allowing yourself to have that extra cup of rice (hahaha) or that sundae with your Value Meal. It’s giving yourself a few hours alone to read, to jot down a few crazy ideas in your journal. A solitary evening spent daydreaming (which I havent done in a looong time!!! I think i miss kissing my pillow?).

A more complicated example, something that we find so common, is relationships. (Oh, dear…)

Havent we found ourselves in such tight, stupid situations, where we know we deserve more but we just cant help ourselves? Have you ever found yourself giving in to impulse, — to that fling, that one night of sex, that beyond-stupid affair, that (give in) to the unstable emotion called infatuation. I mean, damn girl, you dont want instant indulgence. You dont want this relationship because you feel "lonely," because he "completes you." Hell no.

But of course, it’s not as easy to differentiate between "what i want" and "what i seem to want." Sigh***

As I’ve grown (which isnt much, really), I’ve come to realize that getting into relationships needs so much time. So much thought. Otherwise, I end up regretting it. I end up hating myself, or feeling ugly (or stupid!), or finding myself saying "nasasakal nako!!!"

Another scenario. "I deserve more,"…

Two things: Yes, you deserve more than that jerk you’re falling for. You deserve more than that "taken" man. You deserve more than that worthless job, that "emotional vampire" of a friend.
Two,well, yeah, you deserve more, but what exactly do you want? This, youbetter find out. Whether it’s what you want in a man, in your career,or in your own damn life.

It’s easy to fall into the trap, the misconception that you are loving yourself by giving yourself what you want. By giving in to that impulse of "happiness," of self-gratification. Nako, madali talagang magpakasaya. Magdrugs, magsex, magpakawala, gumastos, maglakwatsa, o di kaya ay magkunwari ng kung anu ano.

(back to english mode)

But no, sometimes, "loving yourself" takes more than that. It’s a painstaking consideration of what you really deserve, a thorough deliberation of what you could possibly be more of, the prospect of your highest, bestest self.

I mean come on, the Gautama Buddha says that "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserveyour love and affection." So go ahead. It’s time for some self-gratification!

For the "im fat" girls, have that pack of Kisses for your midnight solitary rendezvous. But always consider that health, is wealth. You dont want to be spending shitloads of money on medicines or hospitalization, and yes, you do want to be fit enough to be able to run to Ministop for that chocolate craving, and be sexy enough to fit into that blouse to catch his eye.

For the "i love/hate him" girls, make a list of "turn-ons" and take time to consider your priorities. It’s not just about wanting to spend the rest of your life with him. I mean, does he want to spend his life with you equally? Or maybe, what you really need is to spend time alone. Don’t you think the next most lovable thing to Jake Gylennhall is your own self? (hahaha).

For the "i dont have time" girls, extend that deadline and just breathe. Don’t let your boss’ rants kill your creativity! Or better yet, cancel that next date. For sure, you will have time to do what you want, what you need, and what you deserve.

For the "i dont know what to do" girls,(oh my g!dat's me)ehhehe, tell it outloud, how you feel, what you want — to that slave-driving boss, inconsiderate parent, unfair sister, insensitive friend, or that petrifying, goose-bumpin’ "guy." Dont know what to do with your life? Imagine yourself old and aging, or better yet, dead. I’m sure in a few minutes youd be jolted back to life enough to realize what you want to do, what you want to be, what you want to give, and leave as legacy to this world...hahayzz...

For the "im afraid" ones out there, why dont you stop what youre doing. Look back, look inside you, and look outside. That bitch is merely a ditz who craves attention and is actually just as afraid and insecure as you are. That dickhead is just a frog croaking bullshit, so dont listen to him, in fact, stop thinking about him already!

Often we fear committment, we fear rejection, wecannot stand the idea of confessing our feelings, of being the firstone to make a move… And the mere thought of rendering oneselfvulnerable in front of "the guy" makes us run away and hide into theEverests of the earth.

To everyone, stop pretending to be what you are, or what you are not. Quit donning that mask. Let go of that fear and unleash the goddess in you (or demoness! raaarrrr).

Incidentally, for those of you who have no idea what you deserve. Maybe it’s that resolution to finally save up even 1% of your money. Or that pledge to finally "stop texting him and move on." Even simpler, it’s the simple act of scheduling time to clean your apartment (youre a lady for godsake!), or for the obsessive-compulsives, time to "not sweat the small stuff."

Simple ideas here — Why dont you decide on a few important things, like taking time to read and smarten up some more (yeah!), time to get to solitarily know your sensual self (wink*), and time to emulate, imbibe, and actually be the "i dont care what the rest of the world thinks" kind of girl. (Yeah, i dont really care if im sounding so self-effacing here!).

For those into the higher mode of "self giving," where you’ve realized that there’s more to life than loving oneself… Think about it. How can you give more to others? How can you BE more for others? Sometimes it’s not just about doling out, or going about the usual NGO/activist/advocacy routines. Each and everyone of us is a person, a soul that is wanting, waiting to be listened to, to be considered, to be cared for. (Arent we all?!) Indeed, self giving is self love. Beyond loving yourself is ofcourse, the ability to love others, to share yourself, and give more to your fellow each and every time.

But I guess, for most of us, we need to first learn to love "good ol’ me" before we can even begin to love the Other.

Diba? =) Tama. Hehe.

Bow***

Note: The above was written in sole consideration of the self, and at absolutely no instance was the "Other" given due thought. It must be understood that this is a pure self-loving essay and that the writer holds no responsibility for any thought or concern for the "Other," for the mean time (or for the length of this essay).

Para sa mga nagsumikap na bumasa ng aking ek ek, salamat. Alam ko na ang kapal ng mukha ko para magadvise sa mga kapwa ko babae. Eh wala lang. Trip lang. Hehehe.

"BEAUTY FOR ASHES"

while i was in the pain a lot of books that ive'd read.

one i enjoy to read is the book of "BEAUTY OF ASHES",

receiving emotional healing was god's way of gently reminding me to not be so angry,

and not to give up.while i writing this,I'm already grateful that i had been reading this book

when i was so ready to make a drastic decision that i now

i feel would have caused more harm than actually solving what wounded me.

I was able to let go of my initial pain induced impulse because of my family's and friends intervention coupled with the practical wisdom in "BEAUTY OF ASHES".

One of JOYCE MEYERS fundamental teachings is that

"People who are hurting end up hurting themselves and others even more".

I love her messages in this quote,"Why does GOD make us to wait for healing?waiting is the difficult part.How well we wait reveals wether we have faith in GOD".furthermore ,

JOYCE MEYER reminded me That life doesn't stop because

"I've been in crisis until you can be happy for other people when they are blessed,

you will never have these kind of things happen to you".

I believe we should celebrate what binds us in faith and not dwell on our differences.

I love people who are respectfull of our having but one GOD.

regardless of religious denominations my family is devoutly catholic and

i am sure that this is the religion i will raise my future children practicing

and it will be what i'll hold on to until my time to meet my creator.

my mom's faith is continually strengthen by praying everyday and

by attending sunday mass.my friends and

i previously attending mass every tuesday and wednesday

and praying novena and rosary.even at the lowest point in my life i always pray rosary.

I am much deeper in pain contemplating letting go of our relationship

but i held on to GOD....it really helps a lot this book to my life..

i always read this to remind me that never give up and have faith in GOD...

♥♥Wu Chun and Hana Kimi♥♥

Everyone in the office is making a fuss about Taiwan's hottest male group.

I don't mean F4 anymore. They're Fahrenheit.

And the most handsome among the quartet is Wu Chun.

I first saw Chun as Jian in a teenage drama series from ABS CBN, Hana Kimi.

He was the most popular yet silent-type athlete whom Reixi fell in love with.

Reixi was a girl who traveled from the US only to see her idol Jian high jump.

She pretended to be a guy and got comfortable pretending for two years.

The series didn't end so well. Both of them continued all the pretensions -

that Reixi was a girl and that Jian did not know.

Now, allow me to vent.It wasn't such a good ending for me,

and I think most of the viewers, if not all, would agree.

I hoped that Reixi opened up the secret and confessed

that she really loved Jian. And for Jian to also tell her that he loved her

and that he knew the ruth from the beginning.

I really didn't like the way it ended. It was very frustrating.

Why didn't they just said something, maybe just hints and then faced with courage all the consequences or the things that would follow.

That wasn't love at all. Well, they termed their feeling toward each other as "liking".

But duh! They were there already.

They could've made things easier for the two of them.

They didn't have a problem with people.

The only people that they would've thought about would be themselves.

They both had the problem. They were chickens not telling the truth.

They would've flown to the US together and start from there.

It was meant to happen. Their feelings were meant to be realized,

only that they just threw it away

and wasted everything that they sacrificed for.












IN DEEP THOUGHTS

WISHING THOSE ARE FOR ME

I COULD JUST DROLL

♥♥ MY BAI ♥♥

I have seen you a million timesAnd every time

I see you I fall in love with you all over again

My heart starts to race My frown turns into a smile

And all my worries are now in my past

When you smile at me my heart melts

You give the sweetest hugs

Every time you hug me

Your smile is like a new day

Your sense of humor is like no other

The ability you have to make me smile

Is all you need you love me

Your laugh is so soft and sweet Just looking in your eyes

Makes me melt inside Your lips look so soft enough to kissYou,

yourself relive me from all pain

Your hands are as soft as a pillow

The way you comfort me is amazing

Every time we say good-byeI start to cry

I say good-bye to you too many times

I said good-bye to you a million times...=(

At the Beginning ~~~

We were strangers

Starting out on a journey

Never dreaming What we'd have to go through

Now here we are And I'm suddenly standing

At the beginning with you

No one told me I was going to find you

Unexpected What you did to my heart

When I lost hope

You were there to remind me

This is the startLife is a road

And I want to keep going

Love is a river I wanna keep flowing

Life is a road

Now and forever

Wonderful journey I'll be there

When the world stops turning

I'll be there When the storm is through In the end

I wanna be standing At the beginning with you
We were strangersOn a crazy adventure

Never dreaming How our dreams would come true

Now here we stand Unafraid of the future

At the beginning with you

I knew there was somebody somewhere

Like me alone in the dark

Now I know my dream will live on

I've been waiting so long

Nothing's gonna tear us apart ...

♥♥MY LOVE FOR YOU BAI♥♥

My love for you grows stronger

Everytime I think of youMy life for you opens

Everytime I see youMy passion for your soulGrows deeper everyday

My caring for your heartNever fades away

The smoothness of your skinFeels warm and makes me melt

The touch of you kissIs something i never felt

The way you hold me late at nightMakes everything feel heavenly rightthe love

I give to youIs fulfilling and oh so true

I love the way you make me feel

I love the way I know its real

I love the way you look at meI'll cherish your love for eternityWith the sky so bright,

I see it throughThat i only want to be with you

With my love up aboveYour love is like a flameYou took my heart

Your the one to blame

Now God I know you'll help usOur love is in your hands

Make me the best women for himAs I'll make him be the best man!

I LOVE YOU MY BAI!

♥♥THANK YOU MY BAI♥♥

i just wana thank you for everything,
for being my brave man and facing all
of them cowardlessly..being with you,
i must say is simply the greatest thing
that could ever take place in somebody
else’s life..Ü
i loved you 4years ago, i love you now,
and please place no doubts on ur mind
for i will love you til we all get weary
and gray..Ü i’ll bet my life on it!Ü
thank you for being with me always..
you’re everything for me now..i
couldn’t be any happier than spending
the rest of our lives together..
and more so, i couldn’t even think of
the most expensive thing that could
ever trade your existence in my life..
i love you more than anything else in
the world..
thanx also for letting your relatives and
family..ur mom and dad…ur sis
allen..ate rutchell and her husband
kuya koko…and my greatest longing
to be wid even just for 1 day…so
happy to be wid baby alexia…love her
so much…im longing to see her
everyday…(how i wish!!) get to know
me, they’re all wonderful. i love them
just as i love you.. and i love you so so
so much! hehe..Ü
thanx for being the best hubby in the
whole world. i hope you know how
special you are to me. cant even
express it in words..hehe!
i love you and i wont get tired of
saying it and proving it to you..
thanx for coming into my life and for
simply putting meaning to it..
i’m yours—-forever…prayin and
hopin u’ll be mine forever too..Ü
-=- exactly a year since the magical
word “yes” was spoken from my very
own lips.. and i smile right now as i
recall how you asked me then.. the very
question which i waited for forever..
the question which i thought i could
only hear from my dreams, and could
only exist in my imagination..
it actually brings me back to memory lane..
– SAN LUIS DAY– FEAST DAY to be
exact, i could only stare at you then, a
plunge back into love that bound us
together, even though life kept sending
us off along ever diverging paths, and
eventhough it took you forever to ask
me and actually falling for me,.. that
doesn’t really count, as long as you’re
mine forever–and that makes me feel
supreme among the rest and i could
never ask for more.. you were the
missing puzzle and now that you
completed the puzzle of my life,
there’s NO WAY that im letting you go
dis tym.. i waited for this thing to
happen and i want you to know that im
keeping you forever in my heart…
so on our a years relationship…
i pray for a stronger bond between us
and our families, and i wish us a long,
lasting and even more trusting
relationship.. do i sound like im
wishing too much?? well actually, all im
wishing gyud is for you to be with me
forever.. mao ra gyud btaw.. hehe..i
cudn’t express to you lately…coz of my
pride and perseverance dat we had to
help first our family..our top priorities
in lyf…to help them and give dem back
wat dey deserve of their sacrifices for
us..just want u to know dat im longing
to be wid u forever..but den i need and
we need to sacrifice for thy sake of our
family to help dem..i do always pray to
GOD dat HE gave us strength to
SURPASS ALL THE TRIALS wat we had
now…im HOPING and PRAYIN dat u
won’t GIVE UP..coz im KEEPING U FOR A
LYFTYM…all dat i do now is for MY
FAMILY..U AND UR FAMILY..MY
TREASURES IN D WORLD..I’LL DO
EVERYTHING AND SACRIFICES FOR ALL
OF YOU DAT I LOVE MOST…
i so love you from the bottom of my
cerebellum! haha, it’s the center of all
emotions man daw na.. hehe! bsta
LOVE kaau tka, thanx for coming into
my life.. i could have gone somewhere
else and i could have been with
somebody else which i think could
make my life more complicated but you
rescued me from all those
possibilities..
i just miss you BAI.. i swear to GOD i
do.. i miss how we kiss and make up
after a fight, how you cheer me up
when im down, how you wipe my tears
away, how you tease me over small
things!! i thought it was all irritating,
but i miss it after all.. i miss you and
the rest of ur family as well..
i hope everyhting’s good there.. i know
we were at our “lowest” TYM for d
past…but we were able to make it
through.. i just wanna thank you for
putting up with me and letting me
realize how things could be so
wonderful having you around..
im forever thankful for your existence
in my life, i know i always say this but i
could never be thankful than not
having you by my side..U you’re simply
the best.. i couldn’t ever compare you
with anybody else in this universe.. i
love you always and forever..
i hope things would turn out as how
the lord wants it to be.. il keep on
praying for us…
you’re always in my thoughts…
-=-i love every inch of you -=-

-=- missing you so badly -=-