When you are madly in love with a guy it is easy to ignore all the hints he is giving you that tell you don¡¦t expect commitment anytime soon. Most guys are pretty honest about commitment but many women stay in the relationship hoping that he will come around in time. I¡¦ve worked with women who have hang in there for several years (on-and-off) until the day he actually says ¡§I do¡¨ to someone else, but even then they keep hoping that he will leave her and come back.
There are many warning signs men give out but here are just a few most common ones. See if you can identify with any one or several of them. He tells you, you are beautiful, wonderful, loving, kind, compassionate etc. and the guy who gets you will be very lucky
translation: that guy is not me
He dodges talking about his past, avoids direct questions, makes decisions alone and talks about a future that does not include you
translation: you better be out of here before that time
He is still in frequent and regular contact with one or more of his ex girlfriends and won¡¦t include you in the friendship or introduce you
translation: you are not the ¡§number one¡¨ in my life
He is still angry at his ex girlfriends, blames them for the problems in the relationship and sees himself as a victim of ¡§women¡¨
translation: you are a woman too, and you are my problem
He tells you he cannot commit until he is sure that he can take care of you
translation: I can¡¦t even take care of myself, don¡¦t expect me take care of you
He talks and treats you differently (not lovingly or respectfully) in front of his friends and family from when you are alone
translation: I don't care much what they think of you as a potential ¡§wife¡¨ or mother of my children, you will never be
He tells you he wants to take things slowly meet other woman and have a kind of ¡§open¡¨ relationship
translation: I think there is someone out there who is a better match for me
Six months into the relationship and he is still ¡§just looking to see what happens¡¨
translation: I am not really that into you and the moment I meet someone else I am out of here
He tells you not to get emotionally ¡§attached¡¨ to him every time you tell him you love him
translation: what do you expect me to say, that I love you, too, please!
He tells you face to face that he is not interested in settling down any time soon
translation: if you want get married go find yourself someone else
Sometimes you know deep down that the relationship is going nowhere, you want to end it and move on but because you and this guy have such a strong soul connection you feel stuck. One part of you says ¡§go¡¨ another part says ¡§but he is my soul mate¡¨. Well he could be your soul mate but not all soul mates are there to stay for a lifetime. May be your soul has learned what it wanted to learn from that relationship and is ready to move on. Or may be each of you needs to do their soul work separately and if it¡¦s meant to be you will later on merge again. You will never know until you really take time to be honest with yourself and look at your relationship for what it ¡§really is now¡¨ rather than what ¡§might have been¡¨.
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